November 13, 2002

DEAR READERS: It isn't always some big, complicated deal, you know. Sometimes all it takes is a sentence or two. Like these:

Dear Andrea: Hi, I was wondering if I should kiss my girlfriend after I give her oral sex.

Love, Yes or No?

Dear No: Yes.

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: I have a simple question. When I am having sex and it gets really intense and I orgasm, when we are finished, I have made a large puddle in the bed. What is that, and is that normal?

Love, Wet One

Dear Wet: It might be useful to know whether you are a boy or a girl, but no matter. It is either male ejaculate or female ejaculate, depending. Either way, it's normal.

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: Where does the semen go in the vagina after sex if it does not fertilize an egg?

Love, In Search of Spooge

Dear Spooge: Sperm fertilizes eggs. Semen, whether or not the sperm it contains fertilizes a thing, ends up running down the recipient's leg.

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: Hi. I'm a male 15-year-old, and I enjoy other guys seeing me naked and have fantasies of other guys giving me oral sex. Am I gay?

Love, What Am I?

Dear What: Unless you can tell me you have exactly the same fantasies about girls, then probably, yeah.

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: I heard that if you are using a vibrator, you can catch an STD. Is that true? And how do you know? I'm asking because two months ago I had unprotected sex, and I went to the clinic, and they told me I had an STD and a UTI.

Love, Sore and Confused

Dear Confused: Uh-huh. And did they also tell you to blame your sex toys, as opposed to your human, disease-ridden partner and your own lack of preparedness?

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: Can you get pregnant if you have sex with clothes on?

Love, Dry Humper

Dear Humper: Yes, but probably not in the way you mean.

Love, Andrea

Dear Andrea: I'm divorced and back in a new relationship with a wonderful woman. She likes to "snowball" and told me what it was. While I'm OK with this, very OK actually, is there any "right" way to do this?

Love, Frosty the Snowman

Dear Frosty: No.

Love, Andrea